TIP: learn to fit life not try and make life fit myself

FEARLESS ENCOUNTERS

01 March 2002

- harsh realities of life "force" us to stay close to our comfort zone
- our choices are controlled by fear of the consequences
? why does FEAR rule our choice to stay in our comfort zone
- FEAR = ignorance = lack of knowledge
- we doubt our ability to cope with NEW
- ability = power, awareness of topic, clarity
- when power is skillfully applied  success is possible
- power is not control of process
- we want to stay in control not to express our power
- we do all things to satisfy our [percieved] needs
- power is needed to achieve this
- if the power is not applied properly then needs are not fully  satisified
- needs = physical emotional psychological spiritual
- while we are not in touch with our power everything is effortful
- not in touch = doubt in ability to deal with unknown
? what are the different ways our power manifests itself
- compassion caring
- helping assisting
- tolerence
- awareness of bigger picture
- choose thoughts, reactions
* 7 Chakras (power comes if they are satisified successful
- 1 Base = worldly security
- 2 Creativity = adaptable, flexible, maleable, to fit change
- 3 Personal = self image, self esteem
- 4 Heart = love, compassion, openness
- 5 Communication = honest open inspired
- 6 Focus = dedicated, mindfull, concentrate
- 7 Mystical = spiritual clarity
- power flows both directions thru the chakras
- if 7 is blocked neglected = duality, unconnected
- if 6 is blocked neglected = perceive things wrongly
- if 5 is blocked neglected = ineffective communication
- if 4 is blocked neglected = heart closes
- if 3 is blocked neglected = sense of self uses harshness not gentleness
- if 2 is blocked neglected = creativity blocked
- if 1 is blocked neglected = grounding is lost
? what does successful living mean 
? how do you translate success for your life
- no regrets 
- peace(ful)
- adding(touch)others
- acknowledge as having wisdom
- live with presencec
- enjoy life and not deny(myself) the opportunity joy
- unending commitment to inner excellence for the benefit of self and others
- inner excellence = being in touch with good and bad in self and others
- work with what we have, help others to do the same
- the more people you can benefit the better for all
- the consequences of your actions cannot be denied [eventually]
* Successful living translates as
- our ability to empower our lives in such a way as to enable Spiritual Excellence
- we are in relationship with everything living or not living
- 3 methods of dealing with your power
	+ em-power
	+ dis-em-power leads to suffering
	+ ignore       leads to suffering
- disharmony induced by poor application of power
- meeting or discussion
	+ empower, listening attentively, supportively
	+ dis-empower, be-little etc
	+ ignore, dont even acknowledge
- To really empower others we have to feel where they are coming from and accept where they are
- when we do this for otheer we will do it for ourselves
- when we hurt we try to induce hurt
- we cause pain to ease pain, retaliation, is a negative spirial
- know yourself to know others
- as you sow, so shall you reap
- our needs are the same
- the way to have these needs fulfilled are unique
- be sensitive of YOUR/THEIR method of, need for fulfilment 
- insensitivity prevents POWER improvement by ignoring
- growth (of inner excellence) comes from facing challenges
- experienced[eg trade]people are "better" than inexperienced 
- use the correct tools to create a master piece
- stress and resulting dis-empowerment as tool is a bad tool
- express pain as anger(external) depression(internal)
- stress is a mis-evaluation of a situation, as a not an opportunity to evolve.
- check, clarify your perception
* compassion allows us to see the PAIN that is causing others to try and hurt us
- Spiritual Practice and Spiritual Excellence is not only if we are in the mood
- you get what you pay for, if you want it, work towards it
- make changes to get different results and continue to refine
? how do you feel about postoning your happiness by living FEAR SELFDOUBT WORRIES
? how would you feel if you were to invest more time and energy learning how to apply POWER  more skillfully